See, I don’t mind that there’s identity wank here, or someone says something that will get them immediately frozen on FFA. In depth discussions can be interesting and conductive to Yuletide wank. But the thing is, some of the people here are really, really nasty about ace/trans wank and downright distainful if you try to explain a viewpoint to them they think is incorrect. While you can skip it and this is _coal, god does it get nowhere sometimes and I wish we could at least curb some of the nastier talk that clearly is full of contempt.